So you think men are the only ones concerned about appearance.
So you think men are the only ones concerned about appearance.
I was watching a reality tv show.... because yeah know that is all that is flippin on now days. It is about Dating in the dark. Three people pick the girl/guy they want to date in the dark room based on sent (they smell their clothes) then are given who pyscologists and experts match them to, etc. They go on the "dates" in a dark room. (where supposably they can't see anything) . They then go on multiple dates and pick the guy they like. They also get (at least in these two episodes) have a sketch artist draw a portrait based on what they think they look like. After its all done they get to see them in the light. One at a time of course so they don't see the reaction of the person. After they decide if they are going to meet them on the "balcony" to keep dating.
Guess what. In these episodes the WOMEN were much more judgement on the apperance of the guy than the guys were on the apperance of the women. The guys were also more accurate on getting the apperance of the women during the sketches than the women. Does this prove guys don't care about looks. NO. Because we do. Say what you will but guys do care about looks and we often admit it. However women do not. I simply think women are just as concerned as guys. Society makes it that way now days. The show is in no way concrete proof, but it is interesting to see.
...... what constitutes physical attraction is another question.
Women also think that guys want women to be thin yada yada yada. It is not entirely true. Men are attracted physically to a women who 1. Has the appearance of taking care of herself and 2. Is well proportioned. What that means is if a women is a size 16 but she is well proportioned (aka she has curves) many (normal) guys would find her attractive.
Here is an interesting quote from one study
"Contrary to popular assumptions men are not bothered much about the size of the breasts or back when it comes to looking for a life mate. These factors are pretty much not important."
A list from another study
1.) Smile of a woman (You can't control this one, well not naturally ; ) )
2.) Feminine and delicate Nature (Some degree of control, but not without changing who you are)
3.) A woman's voice (You can't control this one)
4.) Sense of humor (Some degree of control, but not without changing who you are)
5.) Un-materialistic attitude (You can control this one but with the women I know it must be hard ; ) )
6.) Strong personality (Strong is fine but not argumenative on everything ; ) )
7.) The eyes (Don't have much control over this)
8.) The Woman's Hair (Can control, but not a big factor)
9.) Physical Structure (Look it ranks 9th AND states physical structure)
10.) Comfortable and Confident (This one I think should be higher)
Hmm .... look at this list. To me it states.... be who you are, don't worry about appearance to the point of obsessiveness.
http://www.campaignforrealbeauty.com.au/in-the-news/images/img-ad-campaign.jpg ..... ahh this one shows what is considered physical structure, or proportionate.
So yes we look at the physical part for attraction. It is often up front attraction. The intial attraction. Personality is what keeps us there (well after the college years anyway ; ) ).
Why did I blog about this. I have no clue .... I was bored.
Ok Women start yelling at me now..... ; )
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